Friday, June 11, 2010

Why Do I Want My Ex girlfriend / boyfriend Back?

Why Do I Want My Ex Back........?

 Why Do I Want My Ex girlfriend / boyfriend Back? This has been the cry of many who have been unable to let go of a love that has past them by. It is an understandable question to ask. Common sense tels you that you need to move on. Most of your closest friends are hoping that you would. Your ex most likely is wishing that you could move on as well. So why is it that you have to keep asking yourself, “Why do I want my ex girlfriend / boyfriend back?”

When you are asking, “Why do I want my ex girlfriend / boyfriend back?” consider what has just happened. You were in a love relationship of some kind, may be a marriage. It may have lasted a long time or only a short time but in either case, you had a lot invested in it. It is hard to let go of things and ideas that you may have been really attached to.

Most people do not enter into relationships lightly. They go into them hoping for something that will last a long time and just want love. You have dreams of the way that things could be. You have an idea of the way things should be. For some reason it doesn't happen. The bubble bursts on your idea and then you are left hanging on. It made such good and almost perfect sense at the time and then it is gone. You have to adjust to the idea that what you saw isn't there anymore if it was at all.

Was it love or just the idea of being in love? The lines get so confusing sometimes. Was the love ever there? It is very likely that it was at one point. The only problem was that it wasn't permanent. The two of you became incredibly important parts of each other. You get used to having certain things or people attached to you and when they are gone your mind may have trouble adjusting.

There are those who have lost limbs who still feel a phantom itch in the appendage that is now gone. There are still brain cells that are telling you that what isn't there itches and there isn't a thing you can do about it unless you retrain your brain.

The same thing is true for those who were intimately attached to someone, whether it was romantic or platonic in nature. If those people are removed for some reason, those parts of your brain that had grown accustomed to that loved one being there will have to adjust. While your brain is adjusting to the change, you are left thinking about them almost against your will.

If you are frustrated because you keep asking yourself, “Why do I want my ex back?” don't get too distraught over it. It may help you to get some advice on how to get over a relationship from someone who has been there or who understands and has helped others. It is only natural that you will have trouble with it and “want my ex back.” Give it some time, get some help, and get distracted and in time you will no longer be asking, “Why do I want my ex back?”

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Sad Love Poems

Sad Love Poems........




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Would you just listen and please don't say a word, just yet,
I'd like you to think back to the very first time we met,
How you felt around me? The memories we shared,
And just remember that once upon a time, you really cared.

Now think about how we parted, and how much I cried,
But please don't speak, remember that I never ever lied,
That I told you the honest truth about why we were to split,
But now I'd like you to know that my heart broke bit by bit.

The pain was deep, unbearable and painful, for so many years,
I'll never forget all the sadness, all the uncontrollable tears,
Slowly I am rebuilding my life, I am content with what I've got,
And although it is hard I am beginning to forget what I have not.

You were a special part of my life that I will never forget,
A part of my life that broke my heart, but that I don't regret,
You gave me some happy memories that I'll keep in my heart,
Although sometimes I wish that you and I didn't have to part.

You were my first love and my true love, that will always be so,
After all of the heartache, sadness and never ending pain, I know,
You and I had something special and that will never change,
Because I love you and loving someone else will always seem strange.

Would you just listen and please don't say a word, not ever,
I'd like you to remember that once upon a time, we said forever,
That I had hopes and dreams, that I was the one who threw them away,
And this is something I will always regret until my dying day.





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Sad Love Poems

I looked into her eyes
I got lost in their depth
A glance into the future
Revealing the secrets she kept

For so many years she cared too
Yet we were both afraid to say
We avoided each other completely...
Every time, simply another day

She cried to me one night.
~Please help, I don't know what to do~
I wrapped my arms around her body.
~It is okay now, I'm here with you~

She told me about her boyfriend,
He cheated, and hurt her bad...
I told her not to worry...
But in the inside I was getting mad.

I held back my anger...
And I comforted her instead.
Playing with her hair,
She lay still on my bed.

I leaned over to kiss her cheek,
She smiled and turned to me.
~Thank you for being there...
I Have finally learned to see~

With that she drifted off,
I left her quietly sleeping.
~How could anyone want to hurt her? ~
I ran through thoughts, my heart leaping.

I met up with her boyfriend,
Swung out of pure love and rage.
A knife stabbed through my stomach..
~God where were you today?~

My head smacking onto the pavement,
My breath getting thin...
My vision blurred and fading slowly...
This was a battle I could never win.

As this darkness consumes me...
Light fills my eyes...
I am proud to have lost my life,
If it meant ending her cries...




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Sad Love Poems

Age of six
He loved her so
And everyday
He'd let her know

"I love you Grace"
He'd say each day
She'd just laugh
And run away

Till one day
She turned around
And sat with him
On the playground

"I'm sorry Chris
I don't love you
You'll find someone else
Who loves you too"

Highschool came
They met again
They laughed about
The things back then

They began to date
And fell in love
He got the girl
That he'd dreamed of

But when college came
Everything changed
They were far apart
With lives rearranged

"We'll be fine Grace"
But she had doubt
She turned and said
"It won't work out"

"I'm sorry Chris
I can't love you
You'll find someone else
Who loves you too"

In their twenties
They met again
They laughed about
The things back then

He took her hand
They began to dance
Remembering
Their old romance

Two years later
She became his wife
They'd be together
All of their life

They went on a drive
When it was no longer light
They drove down the roads
Of the starry night

The music came on
She started to sing
He whispered, "Grace
You're my everything"

But then suddenly
In one big flash
Headlights shone
As their car crashed

He saw her laying
Down on the ground
He felt his tears
Start rolling down

"Grace..." he cried
She took his hand
"I have to leave...
Please understand"

"I love you so much
It's always been true
But you'll find someone else
And you'll love again too"

"No," he cried
"It's always been you
I don't want someone else
I only want you"

And there on that street
Is where he cried
Hugging his love
As she slowly died




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SAD LOVE POEMS

She was drinking at a party
On a raging New Year's Eve
She had to be home early
She knew she had to leave

"Honey do you need a ride"
Her boyfriend sweetly said
She just smiled back at him
And quickly shook her head

"I've got to leave right now
So I'll just take my car...
But don't you worry, sweetheart
Cause I won't drive too far"

Unaware she'd been drinking,
He watched her drive away
She knew that this was wrong
But she did it anyway

"I only had a couple drinks
I know that I'll survive"
She kept saying in her head
As she went for this short drive

The alcohol took over her
She wasn't thinking straight
She assumed that there was no one
Who'd be driving out this late

She ran all of the stop lights
As she sped along the road
Never thinking of the pain
This night would soon behold

But out of nowhere, came a car
She screamed as headlights flashed
She flew out of the windshield
As both of their cars crashed

She woke up laying on the ground
Sirens screaming in the night
She was bleeding quite a bit
But she knew she'd be alright

With dread, she saw the other car
That had rolled down the hill
She knew this was her fault
As she started feeling ill

But when she saw the body
Tears started falling down
As she looked down to find
Her dead boyfriend on the ground




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sad love poems
 
So many thoughts,
I don't know where to begin,
I'll start from my heart,
and what I feel within.

I still have feelings,
which haven't changed,
because when you left me
my life was re-arranged.

I used to cry
so many times a day,
but lately those tears
have been fading away.

I am hoping that
my brighter day soon will come,
and maybe, just maybe,
I'll find that special someone.

Yes, it's been hard,
but I'm getting back my life,
I've even managed
to put away the knife.

I will find someone
who's right for me,
who loves me
and lets me be all I can be.

Yet the thought of you and her,
is tearing me apart,
because you will always have a special place
in my broken heart.

Do I still love you?
Yes, I do,
but another part of me
is getting over you.

I never thought I would say this,
but I simply have to confess,
with each and every day that goes by,
I love you less and less.

I just wanted to be with you,
but now you're gone,
and the time has come
for me to move on.

You meant so much to me,
in fact, you still do,
from the bottom of my heart,
I loved you too.




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sad love poems


This lie's become a part of me
For months, I've played this game
Acting like it doesn't hurt
Each time I hear his name

Ignoring what's inside of me
Pretending I've moved on
As if the feelings I once had
For him are somehow gone

Spending each and every day
With happiness and laughs
Forgetting all our memories
Avoiding photographs

But last night when I saw him
For the first time since he left
My heart stopped for a moment...
I couldn't catch my breath

When suddenly it hit me
As the tears started to flow
That even after all this time...
I just can't let him go









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Thursday, May 6, 2010

Relationship Advice Online

Always There Anytime Relationship Advice Online

If you are having problems in your marriage or dating life, you may find the relationship advice online that you need. There are plenty of great helps available to you but there is also a lot of people who will give bad advice on your marriage, harmful dating tips that will leave you single. You can get bad relationship advice online that will help you break up when your goal is marriage. You can also find great advice that will help you find the person of your dreams or get out of relationship that is bad for you.

There is an advantage to going to get high priced relationship advice from marriage counselors or psychologists but they may not have the best solutions. It is good to get advice form as many sources as possible. You should be able to talk to close friends and family who know the situation well, but they may be biased. Sometimes it is good to get dating tips marriage advice from an anonymous source to help you get an objective answer to your questions.


The great thing about seeking out relationship advice online is there are people and answers available 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. You may have something that has just happened thatmay cause you to break up. Instead of just laying in bed staring at the ceiling you can be getting online and asking for advice so that you can avoid breaking up. There are experts at giving relationship advice that have written countless articles pertinent to your situation. You might even be able to find counselors online who are willing to help you out.

If there are questions that you are too embarrassed to ask of people you know, you will find the Internet to be a great place to ask questions while retaining a level of anonymity. The great thing about it is you can ask for advice in secret. No one has to know what you are thinking about. 


If you are single and wanting to find that special someone, you will be able to find great dating advice online. You may also be able to find that special someone on the internet as well. Many have found the love of their lives while trying to find answers to their questions online. Go through reputable services if your goal is to find someone. Go with the ones that have a great reputation of not only matching people up but of screening those interested in relationships.


You can find great advice online but it should only be a part of your search for answers. Question that advice you get and ask others what they think about it. Look for second opinions both offline and online. Be sure, though, that any time you need it, if you look in the right places you can get good relationship advice online anytime you need it.



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Saturday, April 17, 2010

relationship quizzes: The Building of Emotional Connection.


In Dr. John Gottman's apartment lab at the University of Washington, he studies how people interact with one another under everyday circumstances. He has discovered that "bids for connection" happen at a very high rate between partners. 


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For example, happy couples "bid" 100 times in ten minutes. What makes the bids so important? How those bids are made and responded to influences how well that relationship is going to fare over time.



What is a bid for connection? As Dr. Gottman explains in his new book, The Relationship Cure, bids can be verbal or non-verbal. They can be highly physical or come totally from the intellect. They can be sexual or non-sexual. The key is that a bid for connection is an attempt to create connection between two people. Its function is to keep the relationship going forward and in a positive direction.



Bids are the fundamental element of emotional connection. The brief quiz below helps you to assess your style of bidding. More in depth tests are available in The Relationship Cure. To take this test, think of a person who is important to you. Complete each item by indicating how much you agree or disagree with the statement.



1. I sometimes get ignored when I need attention the most.
strongly disagree
disagree
neutral
agree
strongly agree


2. This person usually doesn't have a clue as to what I am feeling.
strongly disagree
disagree
neutral
agree
strongly agree



3. I often have difficulty getting a meaningful conversation going.
strongly disagree
disagree
neutral
agree
strongly agree


4. I get mad when I don't get the attention I need from this person.
strongly disagree
disagree
neutral
agree
strongly agree

5. I often find myself becoming irritable with this person.
strongly disagree
disagree
neutral
agree
strongly agree


6. I often feel irritated that this person isn't on my side.
strongly disagree
disagree
neutral
agree
strongly agree

7. I have trouble getting this person to listen to me.
strongly disagree
disagree
neutral
agree
strongly agree

8. I find it difficult to get this person to open up to me.
strongly disagree
disagree
neutral
agree
strongly agree

9. I have trouble getting this person to talk to me.
strongly disagree
disagree
neutral
agree
strongly agree


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Scoring:Strongly disagree: 0
Disagree: 1
Neutral: 2
Agree: 3
Strongly agree: 4

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Your score for questions 1-3:
Scores below 8 mean that you are direct in your relationship. This is great news for your relationship, because you have the ability to state clearly what you need from this person. If your score is 8 or higher, you may be too reticent in bidding. The other person in your relationship may feel as if they have to be a mind reader to understand what you need.


Your score for questions 4-6:
Scores below 8 mean that you are not overly forceful in expressing what you need from this person. Your relationship benefits from this quality of yours because it's easier for the other person to hear and understand what you need. If your score is 8 or higher, you may be expressing so much anger in your bidding that you are turning this person away. Maybe this is because of past frustrations, or maybe it is the way your personality is.


Your score for questions 7-9:
If your score is below 8, this means you have a high level of trust in your relationship. If your score is 8 or higher, this reflects a problem with the level of trust in your relationship. You may need to do more to win this person's trust. Some people accomplish this by concentrating more on responding to the other person's bids, rather than trying to get the other person to respond to you.







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Marriage Tips

Since 1973, Dr. John Gottman has studied what he calls the "masters and disasters" of marriage. Ordinary people from the general public took part in long-term studies, and Dr. Gottman learned what makes marriages fail, what makes them succeed, and what can make marriages a source of great meaning.  tinav1370@gmail.com


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By examining partners’ heart rates, facial expressions, and how they talk about their relationship to each other and to other people, Dr. Gottman is able to predict with more than 90% accuracy which couples will make it, and which will not. What advice does Dr. Gottman have to offer? Below are some of his top suggestions for how to keep your marriage strong.



* Seek help early. The average couple waits six years before seeking help for marital problems (and keep in mind, half of all marriages that end do so in the first seven years). This means the average couple lives with unhappiness for far too long.
* Edit yourself. Couples who avoid saying every critical thought when discussing touchy topics are consistently the happiest.
* Soften your "start up." Arguments first "start up" because a spouse sometimes escalates the conflict from the get-go by making a critical or contemptuous remark in a confrontational tone. Bring up problems gently and without blame.  tinav1370@gmail.com
* Accept influence. A marriage succeeds to the extent that the husband can accept influence from his wife. If a woman says, "Do you have to work Thursday night? My mother is coming that weekend, and I need your help getting ready," and her husband replies, "My plans are set, and I'm not changing them". This guy is in a shaky marriage. A husband's ability to be influenced by his wife (rather than vice-versa) is crucial because research shows women are already well practiced at accepting influence from men, and a true partnership only occurs when a husband can do so as well.




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* Have high standards. Happy couples have high standards for each other even as newlyweds. The most successful couples are those who, even as newlyweds, refused to accept hurtful behavior from one another. The lower the level of tolerance for bad behavior in the beginning of a relationship, the happier the couple is down the road.
* Learn to repair and exit the argument. Successful couples know how to exit an argument. Happy couples know how to repair the situation before an argument gets completely out of control. Successful repair attempts include: changing the topic to something completely unrelated; using humor; stroking your partner with a caring remark ("I understand that this is hard for you"); making it clear you're on common ground ("This is our problem"); backing down (in marriage, as in the martial art Aikido, you have to yield to win); and, in general, offering signs of appreciation for your partner and his or her feelings along the way ("I really appreciate and want to thank you for.…"). If an argument gets too heated, take a 20-minute break, and agree to approach the topic again when you are both calm.
* Focus on the bright side. In a happy marriage, while discussing problems, couples make at least five times as many positive statements to and about each other and their relationship as negative ones. For example, "We laugh a lot;" not, "We never have any fun". A good marriage must have a rich climate of positivity. Make deposits to your emotional bank account.



One of the most important features of successful couple relationships is the quality of the friendship. Do you know your partner's inner world? Take the quiz below and fInd out.


 Take the relationship quiz:


1. I can name my partner's best friends.
yes no

2. I know what stresses my partner is currently facing.
yes no

3. I know the names of some of the people who have been irritating my partner lately.
yes no

4. I can tell you some of my partner's life dreams.
yes no

5. I can tell you about my partner's basic philosophy of life.
yes no

6. I can list the relatives my partner likes the least.
yes no

7. I feel that my partner knows me pretty well.
yes no



8. When we are apart, I often think fondly of my partner.
yes no

9. I often touch or kiss my partner affectionately.
yes no

10. My partner really respects me.
yes no

11. There is fire and passion in this relationship.
yes no

12. Romance is definitely still part of our relationship.
yes no

13. My partner appreciates the things I do in this relationship.
yes no

14. My partner generally likes my personality.
yes no



15. Our sex life is mostly satisfying.
yes no

16. At the end of the day my partner is glad to see me.
yes no

17. My partner is one of my best friends.
yes no

18. We just love talking to each other.
yes no

19. There is lots of give and take (both people have influence) in our discussions.
yes no

20. My partner listens respectfully, even when we disagree.
yes no

21. My partner is usually a great help as a problem solver.
yes no

22. We generally mesh well on basic values and goals in life.
yes no



Your score:




15 or more yes answers: You have a lot of strength
in your relationship. Congratulations!


8 to 14: This is a pivotal time in your relationship.
There are many strengths you can build upon but there
are also some weaknesses that need your attention.


7 or fewer: Your relationship may be in serious trouble.
If this concerns you, you probably still value the relationship
enough to try to get help.







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